Sexism is one of the most severe difficulties women encounter in their lives; unfortunately, we are not taught how to recognize it, react to it, or fix it. Sexism is a problem that heterosexual women are likely to encounter throughout their relationships. Women raised in a patriarchal environment are taught that they are inferior to males through a variety of direct and indirect cultural and societal clues.

Even if you were raised in a feminist family, you grew up in a society in which males have the majority of power; they even have a huge say over what you can and cannot do with your own body.

As a heterosexual woman, you may occasionally feel uneasy about your partner's statements or behavior, and you may question how to handle these issues without putting a wedge between you two.

First and foremost, your partner grew up in a patriarchal society. More than likely, your partner does not intend to oppress, control, or disrespect you. For him, this is simply "how things are," and it is neither good or bad. It is up to you to identify the exact issues and explain how they impact you and your relationship with your partner.

There are several issues in relationships that must be navigated, such as sex, finances, housework, meals, and disagreements, among others. When problems surface that you believe are rooted in antiquated gender roles, for example you are always expected to prepare meals, challenge those expectations. Let them know that cooking and meal preparation needs to be equally divided.

When responding to sexist statements and discussing the topic of sexism, choose the tone and vocabulary that your partner is most likely to respond to. You know your partner well, so do your best to be factual and sincere while remaining polite. It will be awkward to talk, but remember that your partnership must be strong and equitable. To have a successful relationship, you should both feel comfortable discussing difficulties with each other. 

While these chats are never easy, how your spouse handles these difficult topics will reveal everything you need to know about their personality. You must be able to negotiate mutual respect and understanding with your partner in order for your relationship to succeed and maintain your mental health.

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