Though many young people seem to dislike becoming older, the truth is that many things improve with age. We typically have greater self-confidence, more money in the bank, and more time to pursue our goals and desires.

However, there are some aspects of aging older that are challenging. We tend to lose touch with our pals and can feel alone and alienated. It is also more difficult to make friends in your 60s, 70s, or 80s than it was in your teens and 20s. 

Humans are social creatures. We grow melancholy and anxious when we are isolated. And studies have shown that when we surround ourselves with friends, we age better and feel healthier.

Though it may appear difficult to meet new friends in your golden years, it is extremely feasible, and here are some pointers to get you started: 

Commit to the Process

Making new acquaintances will take some effort and commitment on your part. You cannot expect to form five new intimate friendships in one week. Simply commit to the process, recognizing that it is indeed a process. 

Change Up Your Routines

You cannot expect new individuals to enter your life by doing the same thing every day. You'll have to get out of your comfort zone and try new things, go to new locations, and pursue new hobbies and possibilities. The good news is that, while it may be painful at first (especially if you've been accustomed to your regular routines), the benefits - those great new relationships with wonderful new people - will be well worth it. 

Be Open Minded

Be open to friendships that you may not have been open to before. If you believe you cannot be friends with someone from a different political party, economic background, or age group, reconsider. A new person with diverse life experiences can tremendously expand your life and perspective on the world. That is a beautiful thing! 

Lose That Fear of Rejection

A fear of rejection is one of the largest issues humans confront each day. Yes, putting yourself out there will make you feel vulnerable, and not everyone with whom you connect will feel the same way. However, here are some additional truths you should remember:

- Most people feel compelled to interact with others and are eager to create new acquaintances.

- We all feel awkward during small talk and the early stages of new relationships.

- Every one of your most meaningful relationships began when you met a stranger. Even your own children were weird new creatures that you needed to get to know. 

Don’t allow yourself to become lonely and isolated. There is a big world out there with wonderful friendly people who are just waiting to get to know you! And if you are suffering from social anxiety and would like to speak to someone about that, let’s talk about how I may be able to help.