All addictions have a negative impact on relationships, and pornography addiction is no exception. The adult entertainment industry earns billions of dollars each year, and with an estimated 40 million Americans browsing pornographic websites on a monthly basis, pornography addiction affects many families.

Pornography addiction is not just an issue for men, with an estimated 28% of women watching internet pornography compared to 72% of men. Women can also get hooked. If you are afraid that your partner has developed a pornographic addiction, here are some warning signals to look for.

They spend a lot of time on the internet

Porn addicts will spend hours, if not days, watching pornography online. If your spouse is spending more time alone, either with a phone, laptop, or tablet, he or she may be developing a pornography fixation.

They’re critical of you

Porn performers are often young and attractive, with many having undergone surgical enhancement. The more pornography your partner sees, the less attractive you may appear in comparison to the models he or she is watching. Porn addicts tend to objectify their relationship, and as your spouse spends more time watching porn, they may become critical of your appearance. 

Unusual spending activity

Checking your bank or credit card bills may reveal unexpected or unexplained expenses. Adult entertainment websites frequently hide the charges to protect their customers' confidentiality, so you may need to conduct a Google search or make some phone calls to determine the source of the expenses.

Your sex life has changed

When someone is addicted to pornography, they may no longer have the drive or desire to maintain a sex life with their partner. Conversely, some addicts become more demanding. They may want to engage in acts you’re not comfortable with. As a person becomes more and more addicted to pornography, they will have to watch increasingly unusual material. This may result in your partner becoming more rough or aggressive.

So what can you do if you fear your lover is hooked to porn? First, remember that his or her addiction is not your responsibility. Addiction develops as a coping mechanism for undesired feelings and emotions, as well as an escape from real-life stress and hardships. Second, seek assistance from trusted loved ones and choose a therapist who can guide you both through the recovery process.

Is your relationship suffering because of pornography addiction? A trained, licensed mental health professional can help. Call my office today and let’s set up an appointment to talk.